Monday, May 31, 2010

God Allows Animal Cruelty?

If you haven't heard, the Chief Minister of Malacca, Ali Rustam, believes that God allows animal testing, if there are proper guidelines. This unbelievably stupid statement came about with regard to the proposal by the Malacca state government to set up a diabetes and cancer laboratory that involves animal testing. You can read about it here.

I think his understanding of how animals were created to help man is more than a little skewed. Perhaps he doesn't understand what is involved in animal testing. God does not allow man to torture defenseless animals. And that is what happens in these laboratories. Many cosmetic and drug companies are bowing to pressure and finding other ways to test their products without using animals. Malaysia should not take a backward step and encourage such cruel practices.

But then I'm not really surprised, our politicians don't even give a damn about their own people, what more animals.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Unused Stuff? Give It Away!

So when do you know if you're a hoarder or just a collector? Some hoarders are in denial, like my hubby. We recently did a purge of our things and he had magazines from 1996. I understand if it's National Geographic, but men magazines? I just think it's a waste of space. I've been looking at the space in my house, and realise that I've been wasting so much space with junk I'll never ever use. Every time I want to get rid of something, I start telling myself "Hmmm... maybe I'll need this someday". In reality, I haven't used it in more than three years, and it's very unlikely I'll use it in the next three.

So now, if I've managed these past few years without it, I'm getting rid of it. I'm even getting rid of my son's beautiful baby clothes. Since H outgrew many of his clothes extremely fast, some of them look brand new. I kept them, thinking I might have another baby, but he's turning four and the clothes are wasting away in the cupboard. I got a bit emotional when I started putting them in bags to give away. He had such beautiful baby clothes and it brought back memories of all his milestones.

I have to keep reminding myself that I have been very fortunate to be able to afford these clothes that have brought him and myself so much pleasure. It would be selfish of me to deprive another baby, who may not be as fortunate, the same pleasure.

I've been on the receiving end when I got my own house around nine years ago. I still have beautiful pieces of furniture and crockery that were given to me by my parents and relatives. Pieces that they no longer needed but perfect for a young couple, with a limited budget, just starting their own home.

If you have things that you haven't used in a while, consider giving them to someone else who might find it useful. They'll definitely appreciate your generosity. I know I did.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Sleeping Apart

Period, cramps and my son waking up at some ungodly hour asking "Mama, I want to talk to you!", I mumble something about going back to sleep, which he does, then wakes up again at 6am. *Sigh* When is it exactly that kids sleep through the night?

H still sleeps in the master bedroom, albeit in his own bed. My husband and I take turns to sleep with H so each of us can get some uninterrupted sleep. Yup, we sleep apart. Being a light sleeper I just can't take hubby's snoring and H's nighttime shenanigans all at once. So the separate bedrooms. I read somewhere that a third of couples sleep separately because of certain problems such as snoring.

To be honest, it's the best thing we've done. At first it was a little strange as it's supposed to be the norm for husbands and wives to sleep together. But after a while the second bedroom sort of became my refuge. Somehow I feel more peaceful in that room. Perhaps it's not having to worry about waking H up when I make a noise or being able to switch on the light to read a little. I relish it when it's my turn to sleep in the other room. I bring my magazines, books, body lotion and just spend a good hour, well, spending time with myself. It's very therapeutic.

It's true when they say your bedroom needs to be your sanctuary. I'm currently living with my parents and my bedroom is a mess with toys, books, magazines and papers everywhere. I'm planning a purge, no more unnecessary items in the bedroom. Unfortunately, the bedroom is also my office/workplace and my son and niece tend to barge in anytime they want. I've got to make it more conducive to sleeping rather than being a free-for-all room. That means no toys in the bedroom and everything must have it's place. It's going to take a little time but it's doable. I've gotten rid of clothes, books, magazines and toys that we don't use anymore. I'm developing a better filing system to reduce the amount of paper we have and bought a book shelf so magazines don't pile up everywhere. So far, so good.

Monday, May 24, 2010

The Pink Sage

Have you ever had the problem of trying to figure out where to eat? Even though we're practically surrounded by hundreds of restaurants, hubby and I have that problem all the time. I suppose because we are quite fussy i.e the food has to be good, has to be nearby, kid-friendly, service must be good... etc.

Yesterday we tried The Pink Sage for lunch. It's located in Solaris Dutamas, I like the nice trendy deco and comfy furniture. Since I was more than a little hungry, I tried the Signature Cheeseburger with Passionfruit Iced Tea while hubby had Crunchy Chicken Salad with an Iced Cappucino. Overall the food is very good. The burger is well-made and tastes scrumptious, I also like the portions, filling but not too big, with french fries and coleslaw completing the meal. The salad was also good, drizzled with honey mustard dressing instead of the oh-so-common thousand island and topped with tortilla strips (guess that's where the crunchy bit comes from).

They also have a good breakfast menu which we haven't tried but the dinner menu looks a little limited but the offerings are a tad more sophisticated than the lunch options. You can check out the menu on their site. 

Overall, a great lunch and we'll definitely be trying out their breakfast and dinner menus soon!

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Moisturiser + Sunscreen

I never realised how difficult it is to find a good moisturiser and sunscreen. My skin is oily and I still break out at 34. I hate complicated beauty regimes, so now I have two good cleansers (Burts Bees Acne Solutions purifying gel cleanser & Neutrogena Foaming Fresh Cleanser) and a great serum (Clinique Repairwear deep wrinkle concentrate for face & eye) that I use for night time. Currently I'm using Neutrogena's fine fairness brightening uv waterlight lotion. It's got SPF 50 but and supposed to be light and doesn't clog pores, but I still feel it's a little too oily for my skin.

I don't want to spend a bomb on something that I will use very liberally every day, the Clinique Repairwear is already RM290 and I use that very, very carefully. I would love to try Olay's ProX range, it seem it's supposed to be suitable for oily skin, unfortunately our chemists' don't carry that range. I'm planning a trip to Singapore in July, maybe I'll try looking at some options there. For now, my search goes on...

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Yoga: Week 7

Good news is I don't ache (much) anymore. I've also noticed my arms are a little more toned thanks to all the downward dog I've been doing, and I don't feel like going down for a nap every time I finish class. I've increased my classes to twice a week, that's RM120 a month. I do an Ashtanga class and one other. One class a week is just not enough, ideally it should be three time a week, but with belly dancing, it's just a bit tight.

People have always told me I'm quite flexible. When I started yoga, I discovered that's not really true. All these people are just a lot stiffer that's all. That was one of the main reasons I took up yoga. I don't want to wake up one day and discover I creak all over and take 20 minutes just to get out of bed. God willing, yoga will keep me supple, toned and flexible well into old age.

Thursday, May 13, 2010


How do you make your decisions? Go with your gut? Think about it a little? Or spend ages making up your mind? Well, Suzy Welch (yup, she's Jack Welch's wife) came up with the idea of making a decision by looking at the consequences of your decision in the short, medium and long-term, i.e 10 days, 10 months, 10 years, hence the title of her book 10-10-10. The catch? You have to be brutally honest with yourself and be clear about your values and priorities in life.

It's a simple concept yet many people, myself included, never really thought about how our decisions will affect us later in life. I can't help thinking if I'd spend a bit more time thinking through some of the decisions I've made, my life would have turned out differently. I've no regrets though, I've been extremely blessed all these years. However, 10-10-10 is a great tool and unconsciously, I think I have been using it, sort of. After reading the book, I intend to make decisions with more awareness. Especially now that my decisions involve/affect my husband and son, because they are definitely my priorities.

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Happy Mothers Day!

It's Mothers Day tomorrow, and there are people who say that they treat their mother like it's Mothers Day every day. Really? Then why is it that most mothers are sleep-deprived, time-constraint, rushed, stressed-out and sometimes unhealthy women? Those people who think that Mothers Day is too commercialised should realise that it is probably the one day that some mothers are treated like a queen or have the opportunity to take a break. Being a mother is a tough job. So husbands and children, come on, don't be so oblivious. If you see your wife/mother look like she's dead on her feet, give her a break, OK?

And to all mothers out there, if your child/children is/are loved, happy, safe, clean and fed, you're already doing a fantastic job. And don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Down with a cold...

I've managed to fend off H's viruses but the recent lack of sleep from taking care of his latest bug got to me. It started with a slightly itchy throat then escalated to a stuffed nose and sore throat, resulting in bouts of coughing in the middle of the night.

It's a vicious cycle, you need sleep, but you can't sleep because of all the coughing from the irritatingly itchy, dry and sore throat. After two sleepless nights, I went to see my GP and asked for something to help me sleep. So I was sent home with really drowsy cough syrup, throat lozenges, anti-inflammatory tablets for the throat and a fizzy tablet that supposedly melts away the phlegm (just what I needed!).

The drugs worked wonderfully, I could sleep through the night (only one bout of coughing) and the next day my throat was so much better.

All we really need to heal is to sleep/rest so that our body can do it's job. It's amazing how our bodies can heal itself so well if given the chance. Next time you're ill, listen to your body, it's trying to tell you to slow down.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Do you know where your child is?

This Aminulrasyid Amzah case is getting a lot of publicity and sympathy, but seriously, why the hell is a 15-year-old driving without a licence at 2am in the morning?

I'm not going to speculate the reasoning/excuse/explanation of why the police shot at him and his friend. I'm wondering why was he allowed to drive a car and go out so late at night? What exactly were the parents thinking?

First of all, it's against the law to drive without a licence. We, as parents are examples to our impressionable children. It's our responsibility to teach them right and wrong. That includes telling teenagers they can't drive without a licence, even though "it's only nearby!"

Secondly, in this day and age, it's just not safe. Hubby asked me the other day, at what age would I let H go out on his own, I replied 16 and definitely not at 2am. Maybe some people would think I'm too protective, but the environment is different nowadays. When we were 15, my friends and I could cycle and walk (no driving) anywhere we wanted in our  neighbourhood without our parents worrying about us getting hit by a car/kidnapped/snatched/mugged etc. Now, I don't think I'd let my child go ten feet out of the house without me knowing where he is.

Unfortunately as parents, we have the unenviable task of setting boundaries for our children.This doesn't make us the most popular people in the family I'm sure, but hey, that's our job.